Earlier in the year, Kirsty Allen, of her blog The Ramblings of a Madwoman posted an opportunity for guest blogging. It interested me, as a newbie here, I wanted to give it a whirl and see what happened. We were given a prompt, and I chose to write about a recent conflict.
I thought about it, as I am Always Thinking…
I replied with an idea about learning how to stand up for myself. This is something that is a new skill in my life, and I have been improving it in the last few years. I still have my moments, but I like to think I am more capable of defending myself than I was 10 years ago.
The last Wednesday in February is Pink Shirt Day in Canada. I am all for raising awareness about the anti-bullying movement, and I shared reminders on my personal facebook wall the day before Pink Shirt Day, 2017. It came as a surprise when I had negative replies in response to those reminders. I replied in the most constructive way I could, trying to turn around the negativity. It didn’t go too far, and I did see that one person decided to express their negative thoughts on their own wall. To each their own. A good rule of thumb for social media. If the discussion had continued to escalate on my wall, I would have had to take further action. Thankfully, it didn’t.
In true Tish fashion, I had made a decision about the best way I could handle this. I decided that I would use the anger and disappointment I felt as a result of what happened on my wall, and spin it in my guest blog post.
It was a challenge. I started with the pantser approach I use, and just typed away. The goal for the word count was 200 to 700 words, in short story format. When I finished the rough draft, I had 1800 words, give or take a few. So then I had to get really serious and edit the fluff out of it. I have certainly had a lot of experience with bullies in my life, there was no shortage of examples.
After a furious editing session, I worked on it for 2 days or more, I had it down to just over 800 words. I updated Kirsty with my progress and asked her about the size of the picture she needed for the submission to be complete. With that information, I was able to send it to her. Then I waited. I am proud that I was able to send it in before the deadline. That was important to me, as I am a procrastinator by nature.
It was hard to be patient, but I did that too. I checked for a response several times a day, waiting for her reply. I wondered if I missed the mark with the word count, or if it was not going to be a successful submission.
When I saw Kirsty’s message, I was over the moon happy! She told me that it would indeed be published, and that, “I really enjoyed reading your piece, it was so relatable and well written that I nearly cried. .” I quoted that at work and for a few days after that. It validated my talents as a writer, and also really made me feel good that I accomplished the task at hand.
I am pleased to share this story here, in a link format. There is a reason we Bloggers do this together. We share stories on each other’s websites to challenge our own writing abilities, but also to increase traffic to each other’s websites. It may not make much sense to those of you out there just reading my stories that I link to my wall, but in the blogging world, it does matter. So if you like my story, and you take the time to read it, please take a few minutes to check out The Ramblings of a Madwoman by Kirsty Allen. I recommend “It’s called Project Echo. We’re a top secret, select group of special people and we’ve been monitoring you.”, as I really enjoyed this story. I was inspired when I read Motivation March, to leave a comment for her about this piece. She is a talented writer, and I am liking her stories too.
Here is the link for my first guest submission on Kirsty’s website. I hope you check it out. I am proud of how it came together.
It’s not just about the pink shirt, it’s about changing your attitude
Thanks Tish! It’s true, I thought your post was great and you’ve gained a loyal follower for the foreseeable future 🙂 I really hope you keep up the writing and stay positive, there are people out there who will try to tear us down but we can’t let them, no matter how much we are bullied or tormented. We are stronger people because of our bullies.
This has been an important life-long journey for me. Having been a victim for most of my life, it is encouraging to see the changes in myself, and more importantly, to try and make a difference. The blogging communities, and the Ninja Writers group have been positive experiences for me. I filter what needs to be put aside in the group, and I try to help there when I can. It’s what I do. I am leaving a little bit of Tish everywhere I go. 😉 Now if only the weight loss was that easy! It’s an ongoing thing, but I am tackling it too! 🙂
Thanks, Kirsty! I am glad we met in the Ninja Writer’s group, and I will be reading your blog as well. I plan to work on my writing for the rest of my life, as long as I am still having fun with it, at this point. Last November I wasn’t really thinking this far ahead when I started the blog. Now I probably think about it a little TOO much. 😀
Popped over from the Community Pool.
Thanks for sharing your back story. I haven’t yet read your story but the guest blog opportunity sounds interesting. I myself just had my first guest post published recently.
I can relate to some of the things you mention: being bullied, procrastination, writing angst.
Well done on being selected.
Hello, Ladycee. Thanks for your comment. I am having a complete Monday here, and somehow your comment is gone. Please forgive me and my case of the Mondays. That being said, I got to read it first. Thanks for reading, and Congratulations on your own guest Blog post. I will be following up on some reading tonight, and I will check out your blog in the mix!
Hello again, Ladycee, it is 3 minutes into Tuesday, and I found and recovered your comment. Thanks again! P.S. Tuesday is already looking WAY better than Monday, this week!
Hi! I like how you tell your back story. You have a good point in there. Looking forward for more positive post from you. Btw, if you have time pls do visit my blog as well. thanks 🙂
Thanks for reading! I am having fun, and trying to be positive as much as I can! With a twist of humour to keep it real. I will visit your blog after work, already followed so I won’t forget! 🙂