Trust Your Gut is a series of stories about real people with weight issues, and complications arising from those issues. It will explain what the person is facing, what their options are, what they have decided to do to take action, and why they chose the path they are on. Each person’s story will be based on truth, so it won’t all be happy, but it will be real. The goal of this series is to get people talking about options that are available for people who have weight issues, on either end of the scale. If you would like to contribute to this series, there is a contact form linked on my Home page for this blog. I know there are people out there that want to help people like them; as I do.
The names here may or may not reflect the person’s real name. If someone wants to remain unknown, we will choose a different name for that person’s story. The goal is to help people, and anonymity is a valid personal choice for contributors. I will use a person’s name only if they give permission to do so.
This week I am pleased to share another of my own stories.
Here is Trust Your Gut: Tish’s Story; Part 26
Struggling with a weight issue is hard. It is hard to stay motivated all of the time. It is hard to commit to making the changes needed to see results. The results don’t happen overnight, and there is no quick and easy fix.
Words matter. Whether they are good to hear and provide encouragement or not, a person that is struggling with weight issues has deep rooted insecurities that can make a little comment pack a punch that hurts so bad that you want to give up.
I am writing this week to tell you to keep going. I am writing to tell myself the same thing. Sometimes the little monster inside is making the biggest racket and causing you to doubt yourself. Other times the damage is done from someone that you would least expect it from, and when you are blindsided by hurtful words, it can cause a setback in your progress.
It is easier to give up. It is easy to blame someone else. Neither option is the right one, though. I am working on choosing my battles carefully right now. There will always be petty, jealous, mean people out there. I need to choose to be the bigger person. Yeah, I just wrote that, but it is how I am supposed to say it. I don’t mean physically, of course. If it was that easy, I would just eat so much that I would sit on the people that hurt me. Oh, that would be nasty. Fun to think about, but not very realistic.
I guess I could rephrase that into being the more mature person. Fat or old. I don’t think there is a real winner here.
Being practical about what I choose to believe is something I am working on. I am an emotional, hormonal, creative, over the top, learning to believe in my own skills woman. That is a lot to deal with, and it can all happen in five minutes or less. If my hair is frazzled, it is expressing what is going on inside. If I am quiet, I may be mulling something over in my mind, or too angry to speak without a filter. That brain to mouth filter gets a little less effective as I am getting older. Sometimes it is a good thing. Other times it is not.
As a creative person, I embrace my emotions. ALL OF THEM. Which means that sometimes when someone is mean, I OVERREACT. I over think, over analyze, and get overly upset. If it is something that is mean, I may focus on it for a really long time. This is not healthy and it is not helpful.
There will always be people who think they know more than I do and think that they are experts because of their own education, opinion, or life experiences. I am confident that I am unique and a one of a kind. If I am not an expert on me in my own life, well there is just no way that I can accept someone else’s opinion about what I am doing to better myself. I am living my life, not just existing in it. I am making changes, and not just letting things happen. I am not perfect so I will make mistakes along the way. But they are mine to make, and I am going to own them. All I can do is admit when I am wrong, and learn from the mistakes. That is all anyone can really do about it.
Tackle something with me this week. Let the inner glow out of the cage. Shine as bright as you can from the outside in. Believe in yourself, and prove to yourself that you are worth it because you can take one thing that is hindering you and just let it go. Release it.
I once did a group relaxation exercise in university. We were to go to our happy place inside our mind. Check. Then we were to imagine taking all of the negative and stress causing issues we have and put them inside something so we could leave them locked up and not worry about them anymore. I am sure it was supposed to be an imaginary box or trunk or something that we could close, lock, and throw away the key for.
I shoved it all in a blender and turned it on. Man, that felt good. It made me giggle, and that was the point. To make it all go away.
Find your blender, and pulverize the negativity out of your life. Theoretically, of course. Then dump it out and clean it so it is ready for your next concoction. If it is nasty enough, flush that negative smoothie down the imaginary toilet.
It works for me. How do you make the things that are weighing you down leave your mind to be clear?
Trust Your Gut. It knows you want to shine. Have a bright and glowing week!